Author’s Note

Author’s Note

By Kateb Nuri-Alim Shunnar

There are moments in life when we stand at the edge of a bridge, gripping a match in trembling hands, believing that setting it ablaze will free us. In those moments, anger, pride, and pain whisper in our ears, convincing us that burning the connection will light our path forward. I’ve been there I’ve believed those lies. But here’s what I’ve learned: when you burn a bridge, you don’t just destroy a path to someone else; you sever a lifeline to healing, reflection, and growth within yourself.

I know how tempting it is to destroy something that feels like it’s hurting you. I’ve felt the sting of betrayal, the weight of disappointment, and the ache of unmet expectations. In those times, I let my emotions guide me instead of seeking direction from the Creator. And every time I chose fire, I was left with ashesb empty, cold, and disconnected from the very healing I so desperately needed.

The Creator doesn’t call us to destruction. The Creator calls us to connection, to understanding, and to trust. When we lean into that divine wisdom, we find that what we’re truly seeking isn’t the quick release of anger but the deep nourishment of grace. It’s in those moments of surrender that we can feed off the bosom of the universe and let the milk of healing soothe our soul.

Let me be honest: I don’t know about you, but I can say I’ve regretted being right just to make a situation so wrong. I’ve learned the hard way that sometimes, even when you’re right, it’s okay to be wrong for the sake of peace. That’s not weakness it’s wisdom. It takes a big person to step up, swallow their pride, and choose harmony over ego. And let me tell you, it’s not easy. It takes courage to say, “I could prove my point, but I choose not to, because this connection, this peace, is more valuable than my pride.”

I remember a time when I burned a bridge in my life, thinking I was reclaiming my power. I was tired of being hurt, tired of giving without receiving, and I told myself that cutting ties was the only way to find peace. But the peace never came. Instead, I felt stranded, isolated, and burdened by regret. The fire I thought would guide me only left me in darkness, questioning my actions and my motives.

It wasn’t until I sought direction from the Creator that I began to see the truth. The bridges I burned weren’t just paths to others they were opportunities for me to grow, to forgive, and to heal. The Creator showed me that bridges are sacred; they connect us not only to people but to deeper parts of ourselves and the divine. Every bridge is a chance to trust the process, to lean into grace, and to let the universe cradle us in its infinite love.

If you’re standing at the edge of a bridge, tempted to destroy it, I urge you to pause. Ask yourself what you’re really trying to escape. Is it the relationship, or is it the fear, pride, or hurt within you? Instead of lighting the match, seek direction from the Creator. Let the bosom of the universe nourish you, and allow the milk of healing to flow through the cracks in your heart.

Burning a bridge might feel empowering in the moment, but when the flames die down, what’s left? You may find yourself stranded, unable to return to what once held meaning. The Creator doesn’t ask us to burn bridges; the Creator asks us to build them, to mend them, and to honor them. Even if you must walk away, you can do so with grace, leaving the bridge intact as a testament to your faith in something greater.

I’ve learned that the light we seek doesn’t come from destruction. It comes from surrendering to the Creator’s wisdom, from trusting the process, and from feeding off the compassion and love that the universe provides. The milk of healing is always available to us, soothing our wounds and guiding us toward wholeness, but we have to choose it.

And let me say this again: sometimes, even when you’re right, it’s worth being “wrong” if it means holding on to peace. That kind of surrender isn’t a sign of weakness it’s a sign of strength. It takes someone deeply connected to the Creator to lay down their ego and trust that peace is worth more than proving a point.

So, let this be an invitation a challenge, even to think about the bridges in your life. Before you act, ask yourself what you’re truly about to destroy. Is it just the connection to someone else, or is it also a piece of your own growth and healing? Instead of burning, lean into the Creator’s plan. Trust that the universe has a purpose for every connection, even the painful ones, and let the light of grace illuminate your way.

Life isn’t about leaving a trail of ashes. It’s about leaving a legacy of love, understanding, and faith. The Creator’s light is enough to guide us if we let it. So seek direction. Feed off the bosom of the universe. Let the milk of healing soothe your soul, and trust that every bridge whether crossed, mended, or left behind serves a divine purpose.

With love and reflection,

Kateb Nuri-Alim Shunnar